We have been so overwhelmed already since our announcement earlier this week with love and support through the start of this journey! We want to share with each of you as many details as possible and document every step along the way in hope to inspire other families to consider making the choice to adopt as well. We know everyone has so many questions, and I will try my best to answer some of the most common ones we have gotten so far!
How and when did this journey towards adoption all begin?
2484 days ago… During only our 2nd date together, James and I both discussed having a deep desire to add to our future families through adoption! We didn’t know how or when at the time, but it was something that was laid on both of our hearts a very long time ago.
We have for years planned to have a large family After continued fertilities challenges and struggling for 3 years to start our family, we began to pray about whether it was the right time to start our family through adoption.
Since most adoption agencies require that both parents be 25 years of age, on my 25th birthday, we began to realize it was not quite time. We had just started a business (Germantown Family Chiropractic) that had only been open for a couple of months, things weren’t quite stable enough yet, and we knew that we had some work to do on our personal finances before we would be ready to take the next step.
We continued to pray that God would bless our business and open our hearts to his plan for starting our family, and within a few months he began to open doors like we could never imagine. In early March of 2018, several friends, not knowing each other or about us considering adoption as our next step, all asked us if we had considered adoption and if we had heard about our now adoption consulting firm and the amazing stories of families they were helping. This is where our story began.
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How far along are you guys in the adoption process?
It took several months for us to schedule our first consult and get started with the process officially. We are currently now in process of completing our home study. This is normally a 3-4 month process, and once completed we will officially on the market to match and be chosen by our future birth mom. In reality, we have no idea on even a general timeline at this time to how soon we could be holding our future baby in our arms. However, we know everything is made perfectly in His timing and there is a plan greater than we could ever know!
Where are you guys adopting from?
We have chosen to adopt domestically (within the U.S.), and we have hired an amazing consulting firm, Mustard Seed Adoption Consultants to help guide us along this journey. Mustard Seed works with adoption agencies all across the U.S., so our babies could be born just about anywhere in the United States. I will make another post in the future about why specifically we felt led to hire a consulting firm instead of working only directly with adoption agencies.
We specifically are seeking an infant adoption at this time, but we have no preference of genders and have even opted for multiples (How exciting would twins be?!?!?)!
How can we help?
So many people have already reached out to us and ask us how they could help. Our biggest needs at this time are prayers. Prayers that the completion of our home study goes extra smoothly with minimal stress. As well as prayers for our future birth mom, whoever she may be. Pray specifically for her heart and health as she may be currently facing one of the hardest decisions of her life, which may end up being one of our greatest blessings. It is so comforting to know that we have a community behind us lifting us up in prayer on a regular basis, and we are so excited to finally be able to share our journey with each of you.
That being said, as many of you may know the journey of a domestic infant adoption can have average costs of $25,000-$40,000, and can come with many different expenses along the way, some predictable and some not. We have been extremely blessed to have a thriving and every growing business where we both get to live out our dream of serving our community while being able to put away some savings over the last year to start the early stages of this journey together! Therefore one easy way to support us locally is by sending personal referrals our way so we can continue to help grow our business by reaching more and more moms and their kiddos in need in our community!
However, we know realistically we will need help financially along the way, and we both have a very strong peace that God will provide regardless of the circumstances. We have a specific fundraising page on our new website to keep you all informed of any specific needs or fundraising we may be doing throughout our journey. If you ever feel led to help us along our journey in any other way please don’t hesitate to reach out to us at any time!
We do currently have an awesome t-shirt fundraiser that one of our sweet friends began on our behalf right away after our official announcement! If you feel led, snag one or two (there are 3 awesome styles) of these super cute t-shirts and share the link with your friends! We can’t wait to see you all wearing them around town, and when you receive yours tag us on social media and use the #BringBabyStarkHome so we can document all the love and thank each of you personally! CLICK HERE TO ORDER
Again, we couldn’t be more excited about our growing family to share all about our journey God has set for our lives with each of you!
Until next time,